The Day My Body Said No
Psychologist: Gabor Maté – The Wisdom of the Body
There’s a moment I’ll never forget.
I was in a somatic training. Everyone around me was moving, breathing, sinking into their bodies. And I… couldn’t.
I tried. I wanted to.
But my body froze. Like it didn’t know what to do with presence.
That was the day I realized something I had never fully admitted to myself:
I was not in my body.
Not really.
Yes, I had been living in it.
Yes, I had cared for it, dressed it, worked with it, even “healed” it in some ways.
But I hadn’t felt safe enough to truly be in it.
To trust it.
To listen to it.
That day, my body said “no” to performance.
“No” to pretending I was fine.
“No” to bypassing what I hadn’t felt ready to feel.
And beneath that no… was an invitation.
Dr. Gabor Maté often says the body says “no” when the mind won’t.
For years, my mind had been strong.
Resilient.
Capable.
But my body was holding a story I had never dared to read.
That day began a different kind of healing — not from the top down, but from the inside out.
Not through analysis, but through sensation.
Not by understanding, but by experiencing.
I began to let my body lead.
To honor its pauses.
To notice when it wanted to weep, not work.
To follow the tremors, not silence them.
This is the kind of transformation I guide in my practice.
Coaching for self-worth is not about fixing what’s broken — it’s about returning to the truth that you were never broken in the first place.
It’s for the woman who is tired in a way sleep doesn’t fix.
For the one who has held it all together but feels like she’s disappearing inside.
Because coaching, for me, isn’t just a conversation.
It’s a return — to the intelligence of the body, to the parts of ourselves we left behind in the name of strength.
If your body has been whispering, aching, or quietly shutting down, it might be saying:
“Please. Come home.”
I’d be honored to walk that journey with you.
Because sometimes the body doesn’t need to be healed.
It needs to be heard.